Weddings are special, but they can also be complicated. From organizing a guest list to choosing a venue, this is probably the largest event you’ll ever have to plan for, and it’s often overwhelming. The good news is, you don’t have to go it alone. Your friends and family are more than happy to help you through the process, but it’s important to know what is expected of you.
The first step is to set a budget and decide who’s footing the bill. This will have a huge impact on your overall planning, so it’s best to get this out of the way as soon as possible. It’s helpful to come up with a number before you start looking into other key items, such as venue or vendors, and to stick to it throughout the process.
While you’re working on your guest list, you’ll need to determine how many people you can reasonably invite given your budget, venue capacity and other constraints. This can be tough, especially if you’re trying to accommodate parents and in-laws who are paying for some or all of the wedding. It’s best to discuss this upfront and agree on a number before you start sending out invitations, as it will save everyone a lot of headache in the long run.
You may want to include readings from the Bible during your ceremony to add a spiritual element or to reflect on your love story. Designated guests or family members can be assigned to read the selections and help make the ceremony more personal.
After the readings, you’ll exchange rings and recite your vows. Whether you choose to write your own personal statements or use traditional phrasing, this is the most important part of the ceremony and symbolizes your commitment to one another.
This is a big moment, and it’s a great time to take photos. It’s usually the groom’s job to lift the bride’s veil, but if you want it to be more dramatic for pictures, have your maid of honor or one of your bridesmaids hold it up a little higher for you.
During the reception, the couple will cut and serve their cake. You can choose from a variety of options, such as a “naked” cake (with minimal frosting to show off the cake’s texture and filling), a cutting cake or a sheet cake.
You’ll then open gifts from your loved ones and thank them for coming. It’s also a good idea to send out thank-you cards within a few weeks of your wedding so that they arrive before the memories fade. And don’t forget to upload all your wedding day photos to social media so that you can relive the magic.